Last night while I was at the Common show at Love, I behaved like a complete asshole to a guy who approached me in the club. I fulfilled every stereotype of black women that is most hated by men.
I don’t know why I did it… Well, wait…actually I do know why.
I was minding my business (as usual) when a cornball approached me (as usual). He asked me why did I shoot him a dirty look when he walked by? Which I DID’NT. But somehow, he thought asking me a question like that would be a good ‘lead-in’ to conversing with me and getting to know me. WRONG MOVE.
I told him: “I looked at you that way cause you were looking goofy”
He said: “Woow, are you serious? You’re cold. Are you really serious? I was looking goofy?”
At this point, I am amazed that he is still standing in front of me trying to find reason in my remark so…
I said: “How about you go buy me a drink” (this ought to make him leave me alone REAL QUICK)
He said (clearly appalled): “Oh, obviously you have not heard T-Pain’s new song”?
(Is this guy kidding me?)
I said: “Obviously YOU haven’t heard of a Tic-Tac or a breath mint. I believe they have some in the men’s bathroom. You should use one first BEFORE you think about stepping to talk to a woman.”
He said: blah, blah, blah…
Then he walked away. …upset and thoroughly annoyed …..probably as much with himself for even talking to me as he was with me for being such a bitch.
I felt a little bad afterwards. Nevertheless, DAMMIT, I get tired of cornballs always coming up to me with something stupid to say. WHY can’t I have a decent looking man approach me with something clever yet, NON-CORNY to talk about. UGH!! Is THAT really TOO MUCH to ask???
Anyway, my behavior was not good. I admit it. It happens sometimes. I really do work hard to not make it a habit. But every now and then, I throw an innocent cornball completely under the bus and no doubt cast upon him an even more validated outlook of how cruel, cold, bitchy greedy, stuck up and just plain rude some women (particularly black) can be.
Hey. I’m sorry. But most guys are constantly grabbing for attention from ANY woman….making it faaar too easy to dis them.
My thing is: I really do love yall. … but, Black men need to start coming correct or do not come at all. That’s what many of them do not seem to get. They hate us women because of our nasty attitude, but I don’t think they really see how ridiculous they look and sound with their approaches to us.
It’s a truly sad and vicious cycle of disrespect. And one that I must work a little harder to not be a part of.
